PART TWO --- FAMILY MEMBERS GOWNED UP TO SEE PATIENT AND THEN TOLD BEFORE THEY GO IN, THEY SHOULD KNOW THAT SHE IS ALREADY DEAD!
Fire Department Personnel Will Not go Into Home and Husband has to Drag His Wife out to the Front Porch and Into the Yard Before They Will Take Her in the Ambulance
On Christmas day I called 911 and the fire department showed up. I said, “you need to take her back to the hospital because she cannot breathe, and she cannot walk.” They told me they could not come in the house and get her because of the Covid protocol. I said, “then I have to drag her from the bedroom down the hallway out onto the porch” and they said, “yes.” That is what I did; I dragged her on the floor out to the front porch, dropped her in the yard, and they picked her up from there and put her in the ambulance.
The hospital called me a couple hours later and said they were giving her antibiotics for her pneumonia, and it is starting to go away. She is starting to breathe easier, and she should be home in three days. Finally, some good news. Later that day they said she was doing great. Two hours later they wanted to know if I would tell her to rescind the DNR so that they could intubate her. I asked, “does she need to be intubated?” And they said, “no.” I said, “then why are you even asking me that question”? They said, “we are asking just in case.” I told them, “no, we do not want that.” An hour later they called and said they found a doctor that convinced her to rescind the DNR and be intubated if needed. I said, “if she signed the paper, then that is OK with me.” They said, “do not worry; she does not need it; she is still going home in a couple of days.”
However, 20 minutes later they called and told me I must get to the hospital because she is not looking good. My brother-in-law, sister-in-law and I went to the hospital and went up to the Intensive Care Unit. They gowned us all up and told me that before I go in, I should be aware that she is already dead. I said you just called me 15 minutes ago and said she is not doing good, and she is already dead? When did she die? They said “yes, there has been a mix-up; we are not sure!” I said, “then why am I wearing all this protective gear? Are you scared that I would catch Covid from her?” The doctor and nurse looked at each other and they did not have an answer. I asked can a dead person pass Covid and they did not know. I said, “are you worried I am going to give a dead person Covid,” and again they did not know. I asked them, “what do you know after all these years of all these dead bodies? Do you know anything about what Covid does to a dead body or whether they can pass this back-and-forth?”
The doctor said I was agitated and they were not going to let me go in to see her. I said that I would call 911 right then because I was going in. The nurse made me promise that if I go in, I will not throw any of the equipment through the window into the hallway. I said, “what are you talking about, are people throwing equipment through the window into the hallway whenever they come up here?” The doctor said, “no” and the nurse said, “yes.”
My wife looked like a gutted animal with that tube coming out of her throat and eyes open. She looked terrible! They did absolutely nothing to give her any kind of dignity. I made my peace with her and with God and I walked out. My sister-in-law was waiting to see her. My sister-in-law asked the doctor, “where is the DNR that my sister signed so that she would be intubated?” And the doctor said, “she did not sign anything.”
Now, for the first time, her siblings realized that they are killing people! They thought we were making up all these stories, of all these people dying in hospitals over the last two years and now they are seeing how they treated her own sister and then finally saw the light. The sister went in, and the doctor turned to me and told me that I need to get rid of the body because they needed the room. I asked, “am I supposed to take her home or what am I supposed to do”? The doctor did not have an answer! They said the hospital morgue could not take her because she had Covid. I got my sister-in-law back out there and she said she would call a mortuary. I wondered why the doctor and nurse could not have answered that question. Was this their first day there? And they never dealt with a dead body before? They never dealt with a grieving spouse before? Do they not know where dead bodies go? Do they not have a morgue here? Why am I having to ask you - why didn’t they hand me a list of mortuaries, places to call or things to do?
They said they had a little confusion with the time of death. The mortuary called and they helped us. They were polite and kind and told us the timetable for everything. I did not request an autopsy or her records because I cannot keep reliving this, and I do not want this to go on for years. I have given this to the Lord; He is going to deal with those people.
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